Hello, for those of you that don’t know me, my name is Kerry. I am 23 years old and engaged to the most amazing, godly man alive (maybe I’m a litte biased but hush!)  I feel honored to be able to share a bit of my heart with all of you reading this post. In today’s society, we are all pressured to live a certain way, talk a certain way, look a certain way, and dress a certain way. It seems as though the world tries to encourage the idea of “being different”, “be yourself”, “be unique”, “don’t be a follower, be a leader”, and yet it feels like they want to be the ones to TELL you how you should be. Who is “they” you ask? Movies, tv shows, fashion magazines, music,etc. Out of all the issues I could talk about, the one I choose to address today is modesty…or better yet, lack of. Everywhere you look there it is, a half naked woman or man, it’s on tv, commercials, advertisements, magazines, cars, billboards, computer, social media; there’s no way to escape it. And about 90%, no better yet 100% of the time, it is so unnecessary. You see advertisements saying “best peanut butter cookies in town, will make you feel like you’re at grandma’s house” then they slap a picture of a naked woman to get your attention. What does this have to do with cookies? Anyways, I know that this post won’t change the world and won’t all of a sudden cause society to repent and change their marketing strategies, but I am hoping that this will at least affect you. We can’t change how people dress, but we can change how we do.Woman(men I will get to you soon) I want to encourage you to dress modestly, not for anyone but yourself and God. In today’s society we are told to dress provocatively, sexy, hot, the more skin the better, but what happened to respecting ourselves? What happened to values? What happened to morals?Every woman grows up being brainwashed into believing this is how they must dress in order to be beautiful, to get attention, to fit in, to find a man, but these are all lies! When you dress this way, you are telling the world you do not respect yourself or your body, which then translates to men that they don’t have to either. Men will NOT LOVE you for showing off your body, it gets them to LUST after you. They will love your body, use you, then discard you when the next “best” thing comes along. If you got him for your body, you will lose him to another woman’s body. Don’t be recyclable, be indispensable. What do I mean by that? Be so different than this world that it would make it impossible to find another person like you. Dress modestly, I’m not saying you need to dress like a nun(no offense to nuns) but a tank-top underneath a shirt goes a long way, a long shirt over your leggings(no leggings are not pants), making sure your skirts and dresses aren’t too short, not wearing skin tight clothes, basically keep it classy. This world already has enough women being promiscuous, this world needs more women that value themselves, respect themselves, hold to a standard of godliness. Let a man fall in love with your personality, not your body, the only man seeing your body should be your husband. Any woman can capture a man’s attention half naked, let your gentle heart capture his  heart. Be kind, patient, loving, respectful, honest, faithful, forgiving, compassionate; those are the qualities that will cause a man to love and respect you. And if they don’t, then run! If you don’t run, then don’t complain later when he breaks your heart because he got what he wanted and left. I see many woman complaining they can’t find good guys,and all guys are the same. It’s not true. But the way you carry yourself will determine whether you attract a pig or a gentleman. Also women, help our brothers in Christ out, there are many honest men out there that are trying to live righteously, don’t be another one that forces him to look down when you walk into a room. Your immodest outfit reveals your insecurities, not your confidence or beauty. If you find it hard to dress modestly, then it could be a heart issue that you need to work out. Love yourself, you ARE beautiful, you ARE worthy to be loved, you ARE amazing, and you ARE loved by Jesus Christ. God will bring the right man at the right time, until then, hold fast to God and the standards of holiness. Run from any man that does not help you keep them. No matter how handsome he is, no man is worth lowering God’s standards for your life. Wait for that God fearing man, wait for your Boaz.Men, I’ll keep it short for you. There are no double standards, so dress modestly as well. Respect women, don’t use them, value them. Women are a gift from God so treat them that way. Don’t look at them as objects, but look at their hearts, who they are and how Christ sees them . Be kind, loving, gentle, patient, honest, forgiving, faithful and compassionate. Be one of those men that prove to women that not all men are the same and that there are still gentlemen in the world. Be a godly man and lead her in prayer, lead her to Christ, respect her purity, and love her for who she is..for who she is in Christ. Don’t fall for the women that throw their bodies at you, but hold fast to the standard of holiness and run from the women who will not help you keep it. Remember that this could potentially be the woman you marry one day, if she doesn’t point you to Christ now, then odds are she won’t after marriage either.No matter how beautiful a woman is, no woman is worth lowering God’s standards for your life. Wait for that God fearing woman, wait for your missing rib.To both men and women, society tries to impose the idea that everything is “ok”, “it’s your life”, “yolo”, “young and free”, “reckless” but they never tell you the ramifications of your actions and decisions. All this reckless behavior will get you depressed, anxious, angry, lonely, broken, hurt, and never satisfied, just searching aimlessly for nothing! Society is suffering but in the end, society won’t be the one holding your hand carrying you through; Jesus is. He is the only one that can restore you and bring salvation, joy, happiness, true love, peace, hope, and finally give you purpose and meaning for life. If you have never given your life to Christ, and you would like to, then pray where ever you are, ask God for forgiveness of your sins, ask Jesus to be The Lord and savior of your life, and look for a Christian and tell them of your decision so that may point you towards Christ. I’d advise you purchase a bible as well. And for Christians if you have not been living to God’s standards, don’t condemn yourself. It is not too late to start, repent and God will forgive you. Ask the Holy Spirit to empower you to live holy and righteously, and He will help you. Don’t let regret and the condemnation of the enemy keep you from entering into God’s presence and blessings for your life. Ultimately modesty praises God. You’re body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, treat it with holiness. God bless you.